How do you help a friend who's been Raped?

                                           How do you help a friend who's been Raped? 
                      Rape I don't know how many times i gotta say this , is a very sick and tragic thing to happen to anyone. There are lots of ways you could help someone out , like a close friends who's been raped. I am gonna give you a few tips on how to help someone out in a scary situation like this. Even though it may be hard on this friend to accept help from you, you never wanna give up, u wanna encourage your friend as much as you can. Here are the six tips for everyone out there................


                      First you wanna close your mouth, and open your ears and realize this isn't about you.  Given options , questioning the details and getting angry for the rape victim isn't gonna help them out, it just takes away from how they are feeling.  Let them talk , cry, scream, or yell , or reflect all without judging or trying too hard to understand them. Second tip you wanna know is, you always wanna encourage them to seek professional help , but you never wanna force a rape victim to speak with a counselor or report the incident to authorities.  Telling them what to do after being raped can re-traumatize the victim.  Let them tell their story on what happened , then you can make some suggestions for them but never insist on anything. 


                    Third tip you wanna know is , always ask the victim what they need from you rather then presuming what that is.  You may think that your friend needs a hug, their family around them , or a good old fashioned cry but this may not be the case.  Everyone handles the soul intrusion that is rape in different ways and it is important to always ask the victim what they want or need.  Fourth tip you wanna know is, you wanna try and get the rape victim to eat something at regular intervals.  The shock and the trauma of rape can send even the healthiest personality into a tailspin when their everyday functioning is impaired.  Your friend will feel much better if they keep up their energy, but always be careful to never force food on them as that may set off more emotional problems for them. 


                        The fifth tip you wanna know is , Avoid touching the victim in any way that makes them uncomfortable or re-traumatizes them. After a rape any sort of touch from a hug to a tap on the shoulder can cause the victim to relive parts of the rape. Discuss what level of touch is appropriate for your friend see what their comfortable with. The sixth and last tip you wanna know is , .Realize that your most important job as a friend of a rape victim is to make them understand that what happened is not their fault. This is the most difficult of things because most victims feel they created the circumstances of their rape. Of course this is never true and your job as a good friend is to keep emphasizing the concept of bad luck and chance and to move the victim away from such concepts as self blame, fate, cursed or preventable circumstances.