what would i do if i was in their shoes

                                     What would i do if i was in a rape victims shoes? 
                       How would i handle being raped? well i would never want it to happen to me. i'd be as safe as possible, follow any advice i was given to avoid it happening to me. i would always have a buddy tag along with me when i would go out to a party. i'd definately keep an eye on my drink at all times. I would definately avoid anyone who's had a little too much too drink, and if they start acting strange i would just make up some excuse to get away from them. and if that didn't work i would just walk away. 

                         If it did happen to me i know the first thing i would never do is take a shower, you never wanna shower after a rape cause that will wipe all the DNA away. The first thing i would definately do is go to the hospital or the police to report it. i would not want the person to get away with it. i'd definately want them to pay for the crime they committed, i know i would have tons of nightmares, i wouldn't be able to get that out of my head for a long time. i mean how can someone just go and hurt someone like that ? that's been my question all along

.                     I know i would definately wanna find out who committed the crime so i could take them to court, and they can get the punishment they deserve. I mean who else wouldn't want them to get away with that? i know tons of people that go through this have a hard time reporting it, because their either threatened or know the person and don't wanna say anything. i know wheather i knew the person or not i would still wanna see them pay for what they did.

                        

How do you help a friend who's been Raped?

                                           How do you help a friend who's been Raped? 
                      Rape I don't know how many times i gotta say this , is a very sick and tragic thing to happen to anyone. There are lots of ways you could help someone out , like a close friends who's been raped. I am gonna give you a few tips on how to help someone out in a scary situation like this. Even though it may be hard on this friend to accept help from you, you never wanna give up, u wanna encourage your friend as much as you can. Here are the six tips for everyone out there................


                      First you wanna close your mouth, and open your ears and realize this isn't about you.  Given options , questioning the details and getting angry for the rape victim isn't gonna help them out, it just takes away from how they are feeling.  Let them talk , cry, scream, or yell , or reflect all without judging or trying too hard to understand them. Second tip you wanna know is, you always wanna encourage them to seek professional help , but you never wanna force a rape victim to speak with a counselor or report the incident to authorities.  Telling them what to do after being raped can re-traumatize the victim.  Let them tell their story on what happened , then you can make some suggestions for them but never insist on anything. 


                    Third tip you wanna know is , always ask the victim what they need from you rather then presuming what that is.  You may think that your friend needs a hug, their family around them , or a good old fashioned cry but this may not be the case.  Everyone handles the soul intrusion that is rape in different ways and it is important to always ask the victim what they want or need.  Fourth tip you wanna know is, you wanna try and get the rape victim to eat something at regular intervals.  The shock and the trauma of rape can send even the healthiest personality into a tailspin when their everyday functioning is impaired.  Your friend will feel much better if they keep up their energy, but always be careful to never force food on them as that may set off more emotional problems for them. 


                        The fifth tip you wanna know is , Avoid touching the victim in any way that makes them uncomfortable or re-traumatizes them. After a rape any sort of touch from a hug to a tap on the shoulder can cause the victim to relive parts of the rape. Discuss what level of touch is appropriate for your friend see what their comfortable with. The sixth and last tip you wanna know is , .Realize that your most important job as a friend of a rape victim is to make them understand that what happened is not their fault. This is the most difficult of things because most victims feel they created the circumstances of their rape. Of course this is never true and your job as a good friend is to keep emphasizing the concept of bad luck and chance and to move the victim away from such concepts as self blame, fate, cursed or preventable circumstances.
                    


                     

Date Rape Statistics

                                                                  Statistics on Date Rape   

                             Somewhere in America, a women is raped every two minutes, according to the U.S. Department of Justice. One in four women are victims of rape or attempted rape, 84 % of those women knew their attacker, 57 % of the rapes have happened while on dates. About 42 % of the victims told no one, 38 % of the women raped are between the ages of 14-17. 75 % of men and 55 % of the women involved in date rape had been drinking or taking drugs before the attack occured. 

                             Here are some statistics throughout the years of 1992 and 1996,  The National Crime Victimization Survey indicates that for 1992-1993, 92% of rapes were committed by known assailants.1 About half of all rapes and sexual assaults against women are committed by friends and acquaintances, and 26% are by intimate partners.1

Risk factors for perpetrating sexual violence include: early sexual experience (both forced and voluntary),6 adherence by men to sex role stereotyping,7,8 negative attitudes of men towards women,6,9,,10,11,12, alcohol consumption,8,13 acceptance of rape myths by men.8,9,12,14,15.
                             The Adult pregnancy rate associated with rape is estimated to be about 4.7 %, this information This information, in conjunction with estimates based on the U.S. Census, suggest that there may be 32,101 annual rape-related pregnancies among American women over the age of 18.17
Non-genital physical injuries occur in approximately 40% of completed rape cases.18 As many as 3% of all rape cases have non-genital injuries requiring overnight hospitalization.19
Victims of rape often manifest long-term symptoms of chronic headaches,18,20fatigue20, sleep disturbance20, recurrent nausea,20 decreased appetite,21 eating disorders,22 menstrual pain,18 sexual dysfunction,23 and suicide attempts.21 In a longitudinal study, sexual assault was found to increase the odds of substance abuse by a factor of 2.5.24.
                        Those are all the statistics that i have read about and wow i am shocked at a lot of it . how much pregnancies are involved, how much the person is associated to their attacker. Why they won't turn their attacker in. well i could understand some of them not wanting to turn their attacker in or not wanting to report the rape. Cause some may be threatened by their attacker that if they report it that they'll come after them and that kind of scares them away from reporting the case. it just makes me sick how cruel and sadistic people are in this world, it saddens me how much women have gone through in this sort of case.